Small Talk the Med Student Way
I’m not very close to the grand majority of my classmates, but I know everyone by name (well, except for many of the MSTPs who have joined our class this year) and can comfortably talk to them all. Third year has made it even easier to chat, because at the very least there’s the “Hey! How’re you doing? What rotation are you on?” conversation to have.
I bumped into someone in the library last night. We haven’t ever really hung out and we haven’t had any rotations together, but there’s been one or two other times we’ve found ourselves in the same place and had a brief exchange. This time we commiserated over how strange and arbitrary the grading can seem third year, and she said “Can we bond over this?” I laughed and we hugged. It was cute and sweet and unexpected. =)
I’m really excited for our match day (March 2013! yes it’s already on my calendar), to see where and what we’re all going to build on our medical school foundations. There’ve been a few surprises already even with people I thought I knew well (though when I think back, I never did have a clear idea of what I thought that friend would go into) and a few “well, obviously that’s what they’re going into!” Myself? I’m still unsure. I haven’t outright hated anything, and there’s a lot I can see myself fairly satisfied with. I have a suspicion that I’m going to end up in Psychiatry, but I haven’t done Ob/Gyn yet (which is what I came into med school thinking about) and I haven’t even done Internal Medicine yet!
Saying No to Myself.
For the most part, I’m a really mellow person. I’m also a big procrastinator, but I always make my deadlines; I just cut it very, very close. Obviously I’m not a complete good-for-nothing slacker, but I’m definitely not a member of the neurotic, Type A medical student club.
I’m not sure I’m entirely Type B though. When I get an idea in my head (“Oh hey! I should put up that last curtain!”) then I really, really just want to do it. Right now! This is how most of my random cooking or craft projects happen. I see a nifty recipe online and I must try it asap! So I do.
Unfortunately, I’m still at a point in life where I have exams every 4-12 weeks, and sometimes those exams are only three days away. In which case, as much as I really, really want to put up that last curtain, I’ve learned to say to myself “No, that curtain can wait till after my Shelf exam.” And for the most part, I don’t dwell on it and I can get back to studying.
(But it would only take like, a half hour! Argh.)
Changing things up
I wake up early. As a kid at sleepovers, I’d wake up before my host and spend the first hour or two of the morning raiding their bookshelf.
I’m not sure if it’s just that I need less sleep than other people or if I’m naturally a morning person, but ever since college at least, I’ve found it too easy to stay up late doing nothing in particular. There’s a strange allure to being awake at odd hours of the night, engrossed in chatting with someone or in reading various somethings. But one year, after spending two months in Ghana for the summer, then immediately returning to college without changing my sleep schedule, I found that waking up early in the morning, at 3am or 4am, brought that same magical focus but with better energy.
I tend to be late, or barely on time, if I try to wake up with just a half hour or so at home before I need to leave. I wake up, notice all the things I meant to do the night before, and being awake and alert, I start tackling them. And then oh no! I realize I was supposed to leave five minutes ago. So I’m finally giving in to the fact that I am incredibly unproductive at the end of my work days, but very productive in the morning, and I’m going to try to adjust my schedule so that I wake up at least two hours before I need to be at the hospital. This might even give me enough time to get hungry and eat breakfast before I head out!
There is a decent chance that I’ll give up on this, but I think it’s worth a shot. Wish me luck!
2012!
Happy New Year!
I partied in the New Year with my family at our annual big NYE party. There was good food, an open bar, and, of course, lots of dancing. And my boyfriend (who’s eight hours behind me right now) did a rather admirable job of calling me right as we’d finished our countdown, which was really sweet and made me happy even though I could barely hear him over the crowd. =)
I leave Ghana tonight, and I’m really going to miss my family and the weather and the food and the lack of responsibilities, but I admit I miss my apartment. I’m very much a homebody and I really enjoy being in a space I’ve nested and settled into thoroughly.
Getting ready for the party! (this pic is blurrier than I thought)
Ready! Added a lacy bandeau =)
Party over! Time to sleep!
One of my old favorite authors is Neil Gaiman, and sometimes he puts together a nice little New Year’s wish. You can click here to read the entire post, which I very much think is worth reading, but here’s what he wrote for 2012:
“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.
Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something.
So that’s my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good enough, or it isn’t perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life.
Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it.
Make your mistakes, next year and forever.”
I hope not to make mistakes of the sort that might harm a patient, but it really is so important to act. To do. To try. Making decisions instead of ending up somewhere by default because you’re paralyzed by indecision (or at least embrace the default option! Make it yours!). I’ve gotten more okay with saying “I don’t know,” when asked questions in the hospital, which I think is important. But I need to be more comfortable with trying to answer, because yeah, there are times when I do and I’m wrong and I feel like an idiot, but there’s also so many times I don’t say anything and not only was I right, but what I wanted to say turned out to be an answer the Attending was going to be impressed by. I may not be a walking encyclopedia of medical knowledge like a few of my classmates, but I have learned a lot, and I need to trust my fund of knowledge more.
Happy New Year, dear readers! I hope that however 2012 turns out for you, it’s at the very least a year you can look back on and be grateful you lived it.
Reverb 11, Day 31 – Choice
Choice: What can you choose in 2012 to make your life better?
The first big step of 2012 is choosing the right career path. I chose medicine in 2006, and now, 6 years later, I need to choose what general branch of medicine I want to do. Psychiatry, Pediatrics, Ob/Gyn, Surgery, Internal Medicine, Neurology, Radiology, Emergency Medicine, Pathology… there’s so many options! And by the time I’ll have to pick, I’ll have only tried a general sample. There’s always the option to switch later on during my training, but I’d much rather try to get it right on the first try.
But in a more general sense, I can also choose to have a more positive outlook on life. I’ve spent a lot of the latter half of 2011 bouncing back and forth between being thrilled about how my life is going (finally working in the hospital!), and being sulky and lonely. I’d like to err more on the side of being happy. 
Reverb 11, Day 30 – Showing Up
Showing Up: Where (online) do you want to show up in 2012? What does showing up look + feel like to you? How often do you plan on committing to showing up in 2012?
I don’t quite get what this prompt means, but I’m going to try to tackle it.
Mostly, I want to show up in my blog through my posts. As I already mentioned, I want to try to increase my readership some more next year. I think I’d also like to use twitter and facebook and my other social networks a little more consistently. This could mean using them more or less, but I want to be more consistent and thoughtful about how I use them.
But most importantly, I want to be appropriate however it is I show up online. I’m very careful about what I put on the internet, and I am very easily searchable (as is my immediate family), and I hope that I continue to have a positive and appropriate google search turn out, especially since I have Residency interviews coming up next year!
Reverb 11, Day 29 – Shaking Things Up
Shaking Things Up – Looking towards 2012, what can you do to shake things up a little next year?
Ha, I think life doesn’t need much help next year; 2012 is going to be plenty exciting! Picking a field, picking an advisor, planning out my fourth year (which at my school is a pure elective year! This means I don’t really have any restrictions other than availability and smart planning in filling my year with whatever rotations I want, so long as I do the right number of weeks), taking both parts of the Step 2 exam, applying for Residency, interviewing for Residency, doing one or two away rotations… Yup, plenty of excitement ahead. And that’s just what’s going on in my life in terms of medical school.
In the midst of that though, I also want to publicize my blog more. There’s a lot of medical blogs out there that are far more popular than I ever dream mine will be (and I admit, with a few of them, I don’t quite get it), but I’m not content with where I am yet. I’d like to at least double my RSS subscribers and my hits to my blog. The main things will be posting more, advertising my posts more (interestingly, I get more hits when I link on facebook than when I link on twitter), and commenting more on other blogs.
I know there are some changes I could make to my posts to draw more readers, like talking more about things like how to get into medical school or how to do well in medical school, but that’s not why I started blogging. I started blogging because I wanted to write more often, and because as a pre-med, I really, really liked reading the blogs of (mostly women) doctors and learning about their lives. Not about how medical school works, but about what it’s like to go through medical school. I wanted to learn about doctors and medical students as people. So I guess the main thing that leaves for me to work on, in terms of content, is to try to be more personal, even though this isn’t an anonymous blog.
So: hi again! I’m Aba. In 2012, I hope you’ll get to know me better.
Reverb 11, Day 28 – Freedom & Forgiveness
Forgiveness – What one thing do you need to forgive yourself for this year?
and
Thought: What new thought, idea or action have you taken this year that gave you a true sense of freedom?
I had trouble thinking of new and interesting responses to both these prompts. For forgiveness, it would be, as usual, not studying even just a little bit harder. Even though time and time again I’ve heard that setting aside just one hour every day to read something medicine related is one of the best things I can do to be the best doctor I can be, I still struggle with it.
As for freedom, well, the major things were getting my driver’s license and a car, and moving into an apartment without a roommate, both of which I’ve already talked a lot about.
Freedom is a wonderful thing, but it’s a transition state. It’s not an end goal; it’s simply the beginning. Having a car means I get to go places on my own, whenever I have the time, and living by myself means I feel more comfortable, more free, to be exactly who I want to be and live how I want to live when I’m at home. Freedom is being free to do. Freedom is potential, which is wasted without action. When opportunity knocks, you don’t rest in peace knowing that the chance came and went. You open the door. What good is freedom if you don’t make any choices or do anything with it? I decided to go to medical school, which has meant that I’ve not done so many other things in all these years. I will need to pick a field for Residency, which means I will not have specialized in other fields, and I will be in one place for Residency, which means I won’t have lived in so many different places.
And that’s okay. That’s good. That’s what freedom is really about, in my opinion.
Reverb 11, Day 27 – Time
Time: If you had 3 more hours in the day what would you do with them? How do you want to spend your time in 2012?
Three whole more hours?! I’d more regularly aim for eight hours of sleep (right now I aim for six to seven), and for waking up 1.5 to 2 hours before I need to be somewhere. I’m very productive in the morning; it’s when I’m most likely to actually clean my apartment and do all sorts of other chores and errands. And eat breakfast! It takes me up to an hour of being awake before I get hungry.
As for how I want to spend my time in 2012, well, I’ve already mentioned that I want to stick with last year’s resolution of “Work harder; play harder.” Less idle browsing, more conscious actions. And I have all sorts of little projects to finish. I want to start some new batches of mead, finally crochet a baby blanket for my high school best friend’s baby (who was born in mid 2010 and I bought the yarn before she was born), and seriously declutter my apartment.
Reverb 11, Day 26 – Music
Music is powerful – Think of one song that you turn to time and again, and describe why it’s important to you.
There are many songs I love, and what songs I turn to depends on what mood I’m in or what mood I want to be in. I like to make playlists for different moods, and I’ve also made a few for my boyfriend that I put a lot of thought into. There’s one playlist that I love that I made mostly of songs that he’s sent me over the course of our relationship (and a few sprinkled in that I found and sent him).
But I feel like this post isn’t complete without some music, so here are a few songs that I discovered this year (or late last year) that have been added to my general rotation:
“Home” is a song that feels very cozy to me, and is my kind of love song. “Home is wherever I’m with you.” Yup, that’s love to me.
“Dog Days Are Over” is a celebratory type song. I listened to it a lot while studying for the Step 1, and I’d imagine that this song was what being done with the test would feel like. It was (once the post-exam scotch a friend bought me kicked in and my nerves calmed a bit).
“Pumped up Kicks” and “Hello” and “Electric Feel” are songs that I just like, nothing to do with the lyrics, just the way they sound, and I think there’s nothing wrong with that.